When I was first leaving it helped to think of the JWs I knew as being mentally deficient. Therefore when they said things to me I would take whatever was said in that context.
Now- I don’t care, no guilt, no fear.
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Guilt trip
by Jrjw indid anyone have other jws try to guilt trip them when they were leaving or if you were making a decision which jws felt was wrong but wasn't unscriptural?
i'm getting people guilt tripping me to eventually get back with my emotionally, spiritually and mentally abusive husband who i'm separated from.
i feel sick at the thought of getting back together and putting myself through that nightmare again but i'm being told its what jehovah wants coz he doesn't want families to be apart.
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Would You Go To A Memorial Service For A JW )if you were no longer attending the KH)?
by minimus insome of my old jw friends are sickly and getting on in age.
so far, i’ve only gone to my mother’s memorial and have avoided the kingdom hall altogether.... your thoughts please?.
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It is going to depend on who it is. My parents maybe, but mostly to support their disfellowshipped grandchildren. I don’t need to put my grief on display. My husband and non-JW friends will support whatever I choose.
My siblings? No thanks. They are vile human beings, the world will be a better place in their absence.
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Manmade rules
by Jrjw ini was talking to someone a few years ago and he said in his congregation they have a rail of white shirts prepared in the cloakroom for if a speaker doesn't have a white shirt on.
it was a rule in their hall that all brothers in the platform must wear white shirts when going talks and if the speaker won't comply when asked to change into the shirt they provide an elder in the congregation will do the talk instead.
i have never known any other halls do it so it must be a rule the elders have made up without gb input.
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The entire Jehovah’s Witness religion is man-made rules 😀
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Were visits to the library an important part of your childhood?
by compound complex ingreetings, fellow bibliophiles:.
i remember how sad i was, as a little child, when our beloved carnegie library was razed (unsafe, structurally).
the same tragedy occurred when we moved to a new town and that similar architectural treasure was demolished to put up a new and gleaming building of steel and glass.
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When I was young I always did the summer reading programs at the library. I loved study halls in high school because you could go to the library. And now I go to the library weekly, I love to read.
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Family Insists on Having Relationship with My Child -_-
by Cimarrona inhi gang, i'm a single mother of an 8 month old baby boy.
i've been df'd for over six years now.
my parents are super dubs and most of my siblings are dubs (on paper - a couple have been inactive my entire life but still claim to believe) with the exception of a brother who was never baptized.
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Your life, your kid, your rules. They cannot insist on anything without your consent. Don’t give your choices and power over to someone else.
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Did You Go To Meetings in Very Inclement Weather?
by minimus inliving in new england means having lots of snow and cold.
elders were very reluctant to cancel or reschedule a meeting due to the weather.
i lived 3 towns away from the kingdom hall and if it was icy and treacherous my vote would always be to cancel the meeting....and forget about rescheduling!.
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When I was in they never cancelled for bad weather. It was ridiculous to have people out driving in those conditions. My parents always went no matter how bad it was.
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Is it 16?
by Jrjw inhi can anyone tell me if it's true the society says parents must take their child to meetings until they're 16 even if they don't want to?
my ex is being a pain about me not forcing my 12 year old to be a witness.
he doesn't know i'm becoming inactive at moment so i have to be careful how i word things to him.
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You make the rules. Your family, your kids, your rules.
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Friends
by Jrjw inhi does anyone have any ideas of good places for me to make non jw friends when i move coz need to replace all my jw friends for my kids and i ready for becoming inactive.
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I joined recreation league sports through the local community center. I never got to play sports in school so it was fun to be on a team. I tried volleyball, basketball, and softball. The team would go out after the games for food and beer and it was fun.
I also volunteered at the animal shelter cleaning kennels and walking dogs.
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Ended my last J-Dub friendship...
by Joliette ini wrote her a text message telling her not to contact me anymore.
found out that she went back and told my mother some stuff about me.. i shouldnt have never given her my phone number....she's my next door neighbor.. she would always ask if i was going back to the kingdom hall, i would tell her no...people know that i'm not going back to the kingdom hall, and they still think that i'm going back.. i'm planning on moving from my hometown in 2 years and i cannot wait to leave!!!!
so tired of people still thinking i'm a j-dub, i've told people i havent been to the kingdom hall since 2011, and they still think i'm going back.
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I cut all ties because in my experience no matter what they always think you are coming back. Then gossip about you or try to guilt you into returning. Not a true friendship based on love and acceptance.
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little acts of kindness.
by zeb injust had a coffee on way home when two young mums with babys in strollers came in with the usual bags and stuff for the little ones needs.
i recall our days of little ones and the times we rarely went out.. i bought a coffee voucher for each mum and gave them my best wishes.
i delight in doing random acts of kindness.. i wish everyone here as well a safe and happy christmas/ new year time.
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I get so much joy from random acts of kindness. Just a small way to appreciate everyone.